Can't we all just get along? Geez, the average American couple fights 19 times per month according to Mattress Clarity (relationship experts??) Couples in Delaware really have issues, they fight an incredible 73 times a month! Rhode Island & Hawaii aren't too happy either with 47 average fights per month. West coast couples aren't as in dire need of counseling...Oregon couples fight 15 times per month, Californian's 18x p/mo.